One of the most valuable things a family can do to support a young person within their home transitioning from primary to secondary school is to talk to them about how they are feeling and to really listen whenever; however, they express how they are feeling. For example:

• Take the time to acknowledge that the upcoming change will inevitably trigger lots of different emotions (worries, excitement, fear, loss) and that these can be expressed in many different ways. Identify opportunities to ‘check in’ with your child about how they are feeling, and help them to name and understand that feeling so they can feel connected, safe and validated at a time of potential anxiety.
• Take time as a family to talk about the things you are all looking forward to as part of this upcoming adventure. It may highlight positive aspects for everyone that hadn’t yet been considered. But also, talk together about your worries. Knowing that they are not alone in any concerns they have, or indeed working together to build some support structure around their fears will build resilience to change.

Finally, where possible and safe to do so, find an opportunity to connect with another young person or family that are going through the same as you. It will help the first day at their new school feel less daunting!